When Generosity Backfires: A Reflection on Value, Boundaries & Kindness

A few weeks ago, I made a generous offer to three individuals—small business operators I genuinely wanted to support. I proposed a reduced fee structure for six months, after which my full rate would apply. 

I believed in them. I was kind, thoughtful—and I thought, helpful. 

Two never responded. One said they might reach out later. The third replied—after a reminder—to say they couldn’t work with me because I came across as “desperate.” 

At first, I was offended. I run a full practice. My clients succeed. I don’t need to discount—I chose to because I believe in supporting others. 

I explained this to them. They apologized. I was gracious. But I haven’t heard back. 

And maybe… that’s the lesson. 

Perhaps I never should have offered the discount. 

Because supporting someone isn’t the same as undervaluing yourself. 

Kindness isn’t weakness. And boundaries are not barriers—they’re anchors. 

Every client I’ve worked with (except one, years ago) has found success. That’s no accident. That’s the power of expert, values-led coaching. 

So here’s the message I want to leave with you: 

✅ Be kind—but don’t diminish your value. 

✅ Help where you can—but make sure it helps them, not just soothes guilt. 

✅ Know your worth—and never be afraid to stand in it. 

If you’re wrestling with this balance, you’re not alone. If this story resonates, please share it. 

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