Tired of Vague Feedback? Here’s How to Get Clarity from Your Boss

“Be more strategic.” 

“Push for innovation.” 

“Lead with impact.”

You’ve probably heard phrases like these. They sound impressive—but they don’t tell you what to do differently. And the higher up you go, the more ambiguous the feedback becomes. 

In my executive coaching work with lawyers, executives, and business owners, vague feedback is one of the biggest barriers to growth. Here’s how to get the insight you actually need: 

1. Ask Specific Questions 

Generic prompts like “Do you have any feedback?” often lead to bland answers. Instead, try: 

• “What’s one thing I could’ve improved in that presentation?” 

• “Was my response to the CEO’s concerns clear and aligned with our goals?” 

2. Link Feedback to Your Goals 

Don’t assume your boss knows what you’re working on. Let them in. Say, “I’m focusing on strengthening cross-functional leadership. Could you share one thing I might do differently next time?” This makes feedback more relevant and easier to apply. 

3. Offer Clear Choices 

If you’re facing vague direction, force a decision. For example: 

• “Should I take the lead or delegate this?” 

• “Do you want this resolved by Friday, or is next week better?” 

Giving options helps your manager clarify their expectations. 

4. Observe Non-Verbal Cues 

Sometimes the real feedback is in what isn’t said. Pay attention to tone, posture, and timing. If your boss seems hesitant, check in: “I sensed a bit of hesitation—should we explore that further?” 

5. Explain Why Clarity Matters 

It’s okay to ask for better input. Say: 

• “Examples help me apply your feedback more effectively.” 

• “If the direction is too broad, I might focus on the wrong things.” 

Your boss may not realise how their communication lands—until you reflect it back. 

At Peter Gourri Coaching, I help professionals refine how they ask for feedback, not just how they receive it. When you take ownership of the conversation, you gain the clarity you need to lead with impact. 

📅 Want to learn how to have better feedback conversations? Book a coaching session 

Leadership Under Fire: When You Feel Like Going Full Capone

When you’re about to lose it, BUFCA helps you lead instead.

“Leadership Under Fire: When You Feel Like Going Full Capone”

 “I want him DEAD! I want his house burned to the GROUND!”

— Al Capone, The Untouchables

 That scene is iconic — and exaggerated, and my client didn’t say it, but it sounds more dramatic, right? But let’s be honest: if you’re in a leadership role, you’ve probably felt a version of that firestorm when something critical goes wrong.

A CEO client of mine recently experienced that moment. A repeated error led to a financial loss. He was furious and ready to terminate the employee immediately.

But here’s the twist — this time, the problem wasn’t the employee. It was a system failure.

In that high-pressure moment, I drew on a tool I was first introduced to during my ICF coach training with Accomplishment Coaching. It’s called BUFCA — and it has become a cornerstone of how I help leaders think and lead under pressure:

🔹 B = Breakdown – What went wrong? What shouldn’t have happened?

🔹 U = Upset – What’s the emotional impact? What’s alive in you?

🔹 F = Facts – Strip away story and judgment. What’s objectively true?

🔹 C = Commitment – What are you really committed to in this situation?

🔹 A = Action – What’s the next step that aligns with your commitment?

BUFCA helped this CEO take a breath, reframe the issue, and ultimately avoid making a decision he would’ve regretted.

🔥 Leadership doesn’t mean not feeling the heat. It means learning how to move through it with clarity.

 🧭 Learn more about how I help business leaders across the USA and UK lead with perspective, courage, and precision at: www.petergourri.com

 📨 If this helped, share it with someone navigating leadership under pressure.

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